Women are bound to respond only when men tell them the three magic words, "I love you". It's quite unfair! Why can't we say that first without sounding too liberated and cheap? I guess that's the way it should be, (READ: double standard in society) but don't lose hope. I've craftily devised some ways to solve that problem.
What to Say:
"Hello!" Read that aloud several times for practice until it sounds very natural. We usually say that over the phone to signify that we are on the opposite line. So why not say it in person? But just make sure it won't sound pathetic or you're bound to make the man you love to get turned off with you. "Hi" is a more naturally sounding substitute. But whatever you say first, the sincerity of your spoken words counts most. And girls, don't forget to flash him your one million Watts smile.
Okay, so you've given your best shot with matching tantalizing eyes, but it was just received by nonchalant arms. So plan A failed... don't get dismayed, just switch to plan B... the next line. It would depend on the occasion and on the mood of the person. A sweet "Happy birthday" if it is his birthday (just research on that), or a simple "How are you?" won't hurt. You're in luck if he invites you to his birthday party or better yet treat you out. Then say something like, "Hey, you look great today, or is it just my imagination?" Humor, yes, add some humor to what you say for him to enjoy your small talks and top it all with a little flattery. Don't worry, it'll pay off 'coz you'll satisfy his ego, you'll see.
When to Speak:
Mastering the art of good timing is a key to successfully transmit to a man how you feel without making him know what hit him. Words dripping with honey should only be cast upon him when he's at a state that is very susceptible for romance. Walking side by side under a star studded night or watching the sunset together are good examples because they give good chances for conversation. Full moon nights have a mysterious touch of romance suitable for that mood. So if you don't have a calendar indicating the day and time of a full moon's occurance, it's high time you get one.
Conversing in a car is also very conducive. But if you can't afford one, any moving vehicle would do, just as long as it would keep you together for quite some time. Remember, timing should be perfect, never too early and never too late.
Other Tips:
Simple notes, cards and letters wouldn't hurt, just as long as it's a friendly one. Never, ever write things that would give your feelings away because if he nails you down about it, and you try to deny it, you'll lose (?) 'coz he has evidence. When you give him notes or letters, make sure it looks like it was the very natural thing to do under the circumstances. And if you find out in the process that the guy is also fond of writing, you're in luck. If not, better luck next time.
Every love saga has it's own unique cases depending on the characters playing its parts. But ladies, if all of these things still won't work out, and if your man is as stiff as a rock, by all means, say what's in your heart.
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Author's Notes:
I wrote this article on April 13, 1995 at 10:20 PM at my maiden home in Malate. This article was published in the "Ang Pamantasan" (features column), the official school paper of PLM, the same year. Posting this article in my blog made me realize how times changed since then. If I was writing this article now, text messages, email and friendster would have been mentioned as well. This also made me realize that I was a hopeless romantic when I was much younger. (haha!) Please drop by soon to see more of my early works and join me down my memory lane.
What to Say:
"Hello!" Read that aloud several times for practice until it sounds very natural. We usually say that over the phone to signify that we are on the opposite line. So why not say it in person? But just make sure it won't sound pathetic or you're bound to make the man you love to get turned off with you. "Hi" is a more naturally sounding substitute. But whatever you say first, the sincerity of your spoken words counts most. And girls, don't forget to flash him your one million Watts smile.
Okay, so you've given your best shot with matching tantalizing eyes, but it was just received by nonchalant arms. So plan A failed... don't get dismayed, just switch to plan B... the next line. It would depend on the occasion and on the mood of the person. A sweet "Happy birthday" if it is his birthday (just research on that), or a simple "How are you?" won't hurt. You're in luck if he invites you to his birthday party or better yet treat you out. Then say something like, "Hey, you look great today, or is it just my imagination?" Humor, yes, add some humor to what you say for him to enjoy your small talks and top it all with a little flattery. Don't worry, it'll pay off 'coz you'll satisfy his ego, you'll see.
When to Speak:
Mastering the art of good timing is a key to successfully transmit to a man how you feel without making him know what hit him. Words dripping with honey should only be cast upon him when he's at a state that is very susceptible for romance. Walking side by side under a star studded night or watching the sunset together are good examples because they give good chances for conversation. Full moon nights have a mysterious touch of romance suitable for that mood. So if you don't have a calendar indicating the day and time of a full moon's occurance, it's high time you get one.
Conversing in a car is also very conducive. But if you can't afford one, any moving vehicle would do, just as long as it would keep you together for quite some time. Remember, timing should be perfect, never too early and never too late.
Other Tips:
Simple notes, cards and letters wouldn't hurt, just as long as it's a friendly one. Never, ever write things that would give your feelings away because if he nails you down about it, and you try to deny it, you'll lose (?) 'coz he has evidence. When you give him notes or letters, make sure it looks like it was the very natural thing to do under the circumstances. And if you find out in the process that the guy is also fond of writing, you're in luck. If not, better luck next time.
Every love saga has it's own unique cases depending on the characters playing its parts. But ladies, if all of these things still won't work out, and if your man is as stiff as a rock, by all means, say what's in your heart.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Author's Notes:
I wrote this article on April 13, 1995 at 10:20 PM at my maiden home in Malate. This article was published in the "Ang Pamantasan" (features column), the official school paper of PLM, the same year. Posting this article in my blog made me realize how times changed since then. If I was writing this article now, text messages, email and friendster would have been mentioned as well. This also made me realize that I was a hopeless romantic when I was much younger. (haha!) Please drop by soon to see more of my early works and join me down my memory lane.
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